Please......Can The Real Women Stand Up!

I just want this to go out to the "girls" who call themselves "women" and really don't live up to the title. I know I usually go hard on the men, but we as "women" are the foundation that create these problems with men, so I'm calling out these so called women. I'm just sick of these conversations with these women that have nothing intelligent to say, and nothing comes out of their mouth but gobs and gobs of mindless dribble. Then that is topped off with repetitive talks about sorry husbands, dumb-ass baby-daddies, bad ass kids, and excuses why they can't do better in their life! I'm sick of it , because I am aware there are problems in life (Lord knows I have them too!), but I feel real women find ways to fix it or take advice from another older, wiser, or more experienced women.

A lot of things we as women go through is so self inflicted that it ridiculous! If I could create a list or rules for a "girl" to follow to develop into a woman I think it would go as follows:

1.) STOP SLEEPING WITH THESE SORRY ASS MEN AND CREATING AND RE-CREATING CHILDREN WITH HIM; THAT WILL NOT WIN YOU A LIFETIME OF LOVE.

2.) TAKE CARE OF YOUR OWN DAMN KIDS. IT IS NOT THE GRANDMOTHER'S RESPONSIBILITY TO GIVE YOU A BREAK. SHE ALREADY RAISED HER KIDS.....NOW GO AND RAISE YOURS!!!!

3.) SHOW SOME RESPECT FOR YOURSELF AND STOP GIVING THE "POOTIE" AWAY SO QUICKLY AND THINKING YOU'RE GOING TO GAIN SOMETHING FROM THESE MEN. LET HIM TREAT YOU, WINE AND DINE, AND SEE WHAT HE'S ABOUT FIRST. REAL MEN DON'T LIKE HOS!!!

4.) MAKE PLANS FOR YOUR FUTURE SO IT MAY INFLUENCE AND HELP FUTURE GENERATIONS; ESPECIALLY YOUR KIDS.

5.) STOP SURROUNDING YOURSELF WITH THESE NEGATIVE, HATING, JEALOUS NAGS YOU THINK ARE YOUR FRIENDS, BUT YOU KNOW IN YOUR SPIRIT THEY AIN'T 'BOUT SHIT!!!!

6.) 25 SHOULD BE THE AGE LIMIT FOR YOU TO HAVE THE EXCUSE TO BE THAT "STUPID CHICK"! YOU SHOULD HAVE A GOOD HEAD ON YOUR SHOULDER BY THEN AND MISTAKES ARE NOT MISTAKES NO MORE, BUT JUST DUMB!!!!

7.) LISTEN TO THE ADVICE OF THE PEOPLE THAT HAS COME BEFORE YOU. THEY HAVE MADE THE MISTAKES ALREADY SO YOU MAY NOT HAVE TO EXPERIENCE IT.

8.) LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF! IF YOU WON'T DO IT.....WHO THE HELL ELSE WILL!?!

9.) DON'T BE ON THE HUNT FOR A MAN, B/C SEARCHING WILL ONLY GIVE YOU A "BABY BOY". A GOOD MAN WILL FIND YOU WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT.

10.) EVEN THOUGH THIS IS THE LAST RULE, IT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT TO FOLLOW AND THAT'S GOD. PUT HIM FIRST AND EVERYTHING ELSE WILL FALL INTO PLACE!

What about your friends.......?

Remember back in the day when you had that crew you use to hang so hard with.......go to the movies, walk the mall, hang in the bathroom, and have endless sleepovers. What happen to those days when having your girls around was a do or die situation, when it seemed like your whole life revolved around them? Now you're over 30 and have popped out two or three kids, and it seems like friends are far and few between. Adult relationships are not as genuine as when you were younger. Adult friendships are so one sided and are more based on status and what you can offer. No matter where you came from in your younger years, we just dressed her up in all our clothes so she wouldn't feel left out, and head out to the skating rink and have a good time! Yeah, there were some instances when there was the classic backstabbing in the circle, but these grown bitches are much more vicious! They are jealous, want what you got, and talk shit about you because you got it. Hell, they'll take your man!

I want to have those group of friends that I see on TV, like Joan on girlfriends or Samantha on Sex In The City. Why don't these sassy group of women exist in my world? I want to strap on my stilettos and grab a Cosmo or have brunch and a Mimosa with my besties. I need to have the group of women to rally together when my heart is broken and we gather around the kitchen table like Blanche and the Golden Girls to eat cheesecake at midnight. Where is my Rose?! Well, I've decided to hold auditions for three women to play the roll of my besties, my crew, my friend and a confident. You will have to be that do or die chick , crazy like Left Eye, sexy like Chilli, and cool like T-boz type of women. I will let you know the place and date of the audition later on.....get your shit together!

The Cookie Has Crumbled......The New Year Begins!

2009 brought a lot of happiness, heartache, and pain. But believe me the good has definitely out weighed the bad. God has taken things and loved ones away from me, but has blessed me with abundance beyond belief. I wish I could just sum it up in one solid lump, but too much too express. I wanted to have a pity party when things got rough, but he wouldn't allow me to do nothing but rejoice in his greatness and glory. Besides blessing me with two healthy, marvelous kids, he gave me someone so great that I can't believe what I have. A great man who tends to all my needs and desires before i even wish or imagine it. I love this with every part of my being that sometimes it hurts......now that's complicated. It's like having all your dreams come true and not knowing what to do with them........Rejoice and be glad in it ( that's what my Father keeps telling me. ).

So 2010 holds the question of," What do you do next?". I feel like I have everything that I ever wanted and more. God has blessed my family in ways beyond my dreams. Well, if I have my dreams and desires, I wish for you who reads this today to start by having your wishes come true. Your goals to be met, that man to enter your life, turn the key in your new house, crank up your dream car, land that perfect job. Its yours, its out there, go get it! I prayed it.......it will happen sooner than you think. Happy New Year!

Too Much Drama Momma!

I can honestly understand why an ex is called an ex. They come around to drop your kids off and you don't get that twinge of delight when you all were 1st together. You look down on him like he is the lowest form of " what ever " on earth! You try to look back on why in the hell you were with this loser in the 1st place. Then you look at the images of yourselves that you two created together, you then remember ( or try to remember ) what you had was once special. But that too subsides, because this idiot opens his mouth and nonsense dribbles out of it like droll on a bib! Telling you what he can't do, what he won't do, and what he think he needs to do. Just can't understand that both of you are supposed to be the parents, supposed to be the adults,.........but one of you are clearly doing his own thing!

Why are you responsible for reminding him about whats going on the kids lives, when he can just as easily show some initiative and call 1st. He doesn't know the teachers name, what their grades look like, or what time they even get out of school. Its so obvious that he is clueless about how great "your" kids are and how much they are growing up between the two weeks he doesn't call or come by. He just show up every 2ND and 4Th weekend out the month to "hang-out" with them. Feels that as long as he does that and give you that piece of a check once a month he is a good Dad. WRONG!!! You are just a part time father who shows up at a scheduled time and leave all the real parenting to be put solely on the real, hard working mothers. We can do it all, but the kids need more than one parent, especially when both are available. Mothers can't show boys to be men and mothers can't show girls the proper way men should treat women. It takes a father, a real father to help give life lessons that mothers can't do alone. But unfortunately we have done alone, our mothers have done it alone, .....shit, some of our grandmothers have done it alone! When in the hell are we going to be able to brake this repetitive cycle of sorriness, laziness, and and all around "LESS"! I don't understand how a man could be happy with his self being nothing, because I know personally my biggest accomplishment in life is giving life. You could never take that away, because it will always remain strong with me. So you men that are fathers who don't live with their kids, you need to man up and wake up......BECAUSE THIS MOMMA IS TIRED OF THE DAMN DRAMA!

The " U Suck! " Campaign

I have thought long and hard about this and thought it was time to start my official " U Suck!" Campaign. With all the constant calls and confiding from my friends and family bombarding me on a daily basis about the dumb-ass people in their life. These people that are around and only effect them in a negative and in appropriate way. We may have slept with this person, made some babies with them, and for some reason they are still the same idiots they have always been. This person can also be that annoying family member that quite frankly " Ain't worth a shit ", don't have a job, and always free loading from you. These people will be automatically entered into the " U Suck! " Campaign. I will be allowing people to enter names of any " sucky-ass " person who doesn't contribute any thing positive to society, sucks the air out of the room every time they enter, and brings nothing but destruction every time they come through. After you submit the name of your " sucky-ass " person I will put them into the "U Suck! " Campaign database, and send them an official letter from me. The letter will read as follows: Dear ( insert name here ),

You Suck!!!

Sincerely,
Sherrian Thecakediva Brown

Please do not hesitate to send me your " sucky-ass " person's address, email address, facebook, myspace, or twitter info to me @sherrianbrown@yahoo.com to get the official " U Suck " Campaign started off right!

Is Your Happiness Real?

The glitz, the glam, the money......But are they really happy? Celebrities have everything that money can buy and you wonder why they are alcoholics, addicted to drugs, and having nervous breakdowns. They have everything, but is it happiness? Is it the smile you put on your face when you enter work when you clearly hate you job. Is happiness the way you cuddle in bed with your significant other when you know you can't stand their ass! Or maybe happiness is a mystery that has not yet been discovered, floating around in the cosmos awaiting for some one to make it real.......genuine.

Someone on the outside may think your life is so perfect, that you got it going on, that you are " Happy ". It may be an appearance and your " happiness " is just not real. Sometimes I think this unsolved thing may not even exist. It may be just the thing that keeps us from being complete, whole. But we want it, because we work so hard to get it. Working a 40 hour shitty-ass job because it pays the most, to buy the things you always wanted, and not being able to enjoy it because your at work. So you continue to buy these " things " that you feel will make you happy.....but it doesn't work.


I look at the Travel Channel from time to time and its this show with these two guys who go to these remote villages to stay with these primative tribes. The people live off the land, hunt their food, and walk around among each other naked and free. No electricity, technology, or modern amenities. They just have each other and I think thet are genuinely happy. So maybe we need to give it all up; the nice house, the car, and the rest of the luxuries and go to find happiness. Because I think what we are doing right now is not working!

CHALLENGE!

I just want to challenge everyone today to be the best " you " that you can be. I say this as I am sitting in the jury selection room at the courthouse. We sit here looking at this video about the importance of serving on jury duty. Stating that it is a privilege, just not a right. How so many people, especially women and people of color were unable to even provide this service. So I challenge those in the " blog-o-sphere " to stand up for something to make a difference or an impact for you or someone around you. Even if it's as simple as saying, " Good morning " to the person you pass on the street. Volunteer at your kid's school, and come up with some ideas to make improvements instead of always complaining. Take the time to plan a healthy meal for your family, instead of grabbing something on the go. Set the table and ask your kids, " How was your day? ". You would be surprised to what they have learned and seen through the day.

If you haven't had the time to spend with your " Hunnie " lately, plan a romantic night. If money is an issue, plan something at home. Light some candles, uncork a $5 bottle of wine, and cook a sexy meal that will get that person in a sexy mood!

I challenge you today by calling someone that's important in your life to say, " I love you ". You would be thrilled to see what kind of impact you will have on some one's day. Love has a way of doing that to people!

I challenge you to enjoy life today. Regardless of what trials and tribulations you may be going through lately.......Just step back, take a breath and thank God for allowing you to live upon this earth another day. This is your day! I challenge you to claim it and make it great!