Too Much Drama Momma!

I can honestly understand why an ex is called an ex. They come around to drop your kids off and you don't get that twinge of delight when you all were 1st together. You look down on him like he is the lowest form of " what ever " on earth! You try to look back on why in the hell you were with this loser in the 1st place. Then you look at the images of yourselves that you two created together, you then remember ( or try to remember ) what you had was once special. But that too subsides, because this idiot opens his mouth and nonsense dribbles out of it like droll on a bib! Telling you what he can't do, what he won't do, and what he think he needs to do. Just can't understand that both of you are supposed to be the parents, supposed to be the adults,.........but one of you are clearly doing his own thing!

Why are you responsible for reminding him about whats going on the kids lives, when he can just as easily show some initiative and call 1st. He doesn't know the teachers name, what their grades look like, or what time they even get out of school. Its so obvious that he is clueless about how great "your" kids are and how much they are growing up between the two weeks he doesn't call or come by. He just show up every 2ND and 4Th weekend out the month to "hang-out" with them. Feels that as long as he does that and give you that piece of a check once a month he is a good Dad. WRONG!!! You are just a part time father who shows up at a scheduled time and leave all the real parenting to be put solely on the real, hard working mothers. We can do it all, but the kids need more than one parent, especially when both are available. Mothers can't show boys to be men and mothers can't show girls the proper way men should treat women. It takes a father, a real father to help give life lessons that mothers can't do alone. But unfortunately we have done alone, our mothers have done it alone, .....shit, some of our grandmothers have done it alone! When in the hell are we going to be able to brake this repetitive cycle of sorriness, laziness, and and all around "LESS"! I don't understand how a man could be happy with his self being nothing, because I know personally my biggest accomplishment in life is giving life. You could never take that away, because it will always remain strong with me. So you men that are fathers who don't live with their kids, you need to man up and wake up......BECAUSE THIS MOMMA IS TIRED OF THE DAMN DRAMA!

The " U Suck! " Campaign

I have thought long and hard about this and thought it was time to start my official " U Suck!" Campaign. With all the constant calls and confiding from my friends and family bombarding me on a daily basis about the dumb-ass people in their life. These people that are around and only effect them in a negative and in appropriate way. We may have slept with this person, made some babies with them, and for some reason they are still the same idiots they have always been. This person can also be that annoying family member that quite frankly " Ain't worth a shit ", don't have a job, and always free loading from you. These people will be automatically entered into the " U Suck! " Campaign. I will be allowing people to enter names of any " sucky-ass " person who doesn't contribute any thing positive to society, sucks the air out of the room every time they enter, and brings nothing but destruction every time they come through. After you submit the name of your " sucky-ass " person I will put them into the "U Suck! " Campaign database, and send them an official letter from me. The letter will read as follows: Dear ( insert name here ),

You Suck!!!

Sincerely,
Sherrian Thecakediva Brown

Please do not hesitate to send me your " sucky-ass " person's address, email address, facebook, myspace, or twitter info to me @sherrianbrown@yahoo.com to get the official " U Suck " Campaign started off right!

Is Your Happiness Real?

The glitz, the glam, the money......But are they really happy? Celebrities have everything that money can buy and you wonder why they are alcoholics, addicted to drugs, and having nervous breakdowns. They have everything, but is it happiness? Is it the smile you put on your face when you enter work when you clearly hate you job. Is happiness the way you cuddle in bed with your significant other when you know you can't stand their ass! Or maybe happiness is a mystery that has not yet been discovered, floating around in the cosmos awaiting for some one to make it real.......genuine.

Someone on the outside may think your life is so perfect, that you got it going on, that you are " Happy ". It may be an appearance and your " happiness " is just not real. Sometimes I think this unsolved thing may not even exist. It may be just the thing that keeps us from being complete, whole. But we want it, because we work so hard to get it. Working a 40 hour shitty-ass job because it pays the most, to buy the things you always wanted, and not being able to enjoy it because your at work. So you continue to buy these " things " that you feel will make you happy.....but it doesn't work.


I look at the Travel Channel from time to time and its this show with these two guys who go to these remote villages to stay with these primative tribes. The people live off the land, hunt their food, and walk around among each other naked and free. No electricity, technology, or modern amenities. They just have each other and I think thet are genuinely happy. So maybe we need to give it all up; the nice house, the car, and the rest of the luxuries and go to find happiness. Because I think what we are doing right now is not working!

CHALLENGE!

I just want to challenge everyone today to be the best " you " that you can be. I say this as I am sitting in the jury selection room at the courthouse. We sit here looking at this video about the importance of serving on jury duty. Stating that it is a privilege, just not a right. How so many people, especially women and people of color were unable to even provide this service. So I challenge those in the " blog-o-sphere " to stand up for something to make a difference or an impact for you or someone around you. Even if it's as simple as saying, " Good morning " to the person you pass on the street. Volunteer at your kid's school, and come up with some ideas to make improvements instead of always complaining. Take the time to plan a healthy meal for your family, instead of grabbing something on the go. Set the table and ask your kids, " How was your day? ". You would be surprised to what they have learned and seen through the day.

If you haven't had the time to spend with your " Hunnie " lately, plan a romantic night. If money is an issue, plan something at home. Light some candles, uncork a $5 bottle of wine, and cook a sexy meal that will get that person in a sexy mood!

I challenge you today by calling someone that's important in your life to say, " I love you ". You would be thrilled to see what kind of impact you will have on some one's day. Love has a way of doing that to people!

I challenge you to enjoy life today. Regardless of what trials and tribulations you may be going through lately.......Just step back, take a breath and thank God for allowing you to live upon this earth another day. This is your day! I challenge you to claim it and make it great!

Baby Boys.......

Would it be too bold of me to tell these " Baby Boys " to get the tit out their mouth and grow the fuck up! Stop cryin' bout shit and askin for the pacifier and learn how to be men. We women learn this shit at an early age, but for some reason " Baby Boys " don't ever realize when they have children and get over the age of 21 its time to man up! I'm shouting out so loud today, b/c I am sick of friends and associates confiding, crying to me about these sorry " Baby Boys " who fell it's too much for them to particapate in the real world and take up the role of " The Grown-Up ".

The worst thing about the epidimic of the " Baby Boy " is that alot of these women are guilty of hendering their growth, b/c they occasionally sneak them the bottle. Missing their mommies, they don't want them to stray back home, the women in their lives will bribe them with gifts and money for fear of them leaving. " Baby Boy " doesn't even have a job and you want to reward this bum! You have about three of your own children to take care of, but do you realy need a fourth? This is the thing I don't get about the " Baby Boy " is that he feels comfortable taking from the single mothers and their baby mommas without any conscience. I just don't get it!

So my message to the " Baby Boys " out there hanging out in there momma's crib being the victim .......GET THE FUCK UP!!!!! TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF, YOUR KIDS, AND YOUR WOMAN! STOP TAKING ADVANTAGE OF THESE DESPERATE WOMEN WHO YOU KNOW HAVE LOW SELF ESTEEM AND AN UNHEALTHY FEAR OF BEING ALONE! STOP THINKING THAT YOUR GOOD LOOKS, SWEET TALK, AND BIG DICKS WILL GET YOU WHATEVER YOU WANT. YOU NEED A JOB, HARD WORK, AND A PERSONALITY TO GET THE THINGS THAT YOU WANT IN LIFE. THEN I WANT TO SHOUT OUT TO THE WOMEN ( MOTHER'S INCLUDED ) THAT PUT UP WITH THERE BULLSHIT.......STOP IT!!!!!!!

Mommy Dearest

You grow up all your life to respect your parents. Esecially your mother.....Mommy Dearest. When you were younger you would always obey even if you knew in your heart she was dead wrong! You grow older into the rebellious teen that would fight her tooth and nail to prove she is wrong. She was your worst enemy and you didn't care about her feelings or calling her out on her bullshit. You want freedom and excitement in your life, so you decide to move out on your own to explore the world around you. The world that she sheilded you from, the world she spent her life trying to protect you from. So you're out there on your on and for some reason you think you met the perfect guy. The true love of your life that you just had to go against her wishes and move in together. Ofcourse things start off great, but things come to a head and he leaves and you end up pregant. Your alone, naked, and vulnerable. But she comes to your rescue and brings you back in like the " Prodical Daughter ". Gives you love, food, and shelter. All the things a good mother is supposed to do for her child.

Years past and you grow into an older, more mature adult that has gained her independence in a legitimate way. You and your mom may not be the best of friends, but you tolerate each other. She still tries to tell you what to do, but now you have learned how to be respectful. This is what you do when you are grown, raising kids, and trying to stay married. You're grateful to your mother, but you still think you should make your own decisions......your own mistakes. How old do you have to be before your mom considers you an adult. I know from time to time you slip, stumble, and occasionally fall. But I thought a parent's job is to pick us up and to dust us off and kiss the boo-boos. Regardless of how you feel about their decisions, you should be happy for them when they're happy. Be that cheering section when they have made a major accomplishment in their life. Be that listening ear when they need it ad try not to be so damn critical! Mommy Dearest we need you in the worst way regardless if we're 2, 30, or 100! Mommy Dearest we need you to hold our hands, not to beat us over the back with a wire hanger!

Starting A New.....

This year has been a world wind adventure that has taken flight in the most positive way. I lost almost 170lbs of grotesque weight that I have been trying to get rid of for years! But in the mist of it all I gained the weight back in the shape of a slim, dark, mocha shake. He has been the leader, the pilot, and the provider of this all expense paid adventure he has been taking me on for the last 3 yrs. He even purchased my very 1st car last Christmas.....my 1st car @ the age of 30 yrs old! ( can you imagine that!!! )

He's been that person I can talk to when so many have turned their back and I just want to celebrate his awesome deliciousness!!!! OK, I just had a moment....I'm back. Now I'm on my way to moving into my 1st house with him and my 2 children thanks to him wanting to give me the things I never had in my marriage. But now I tell everyone that we are buying a house together and they want to know " When is the wedding? ". Why do we feel that marriage is the answer to complete happiness? This is something I felt I needed to be complete back in my twenties, but now that I'm older I think I truly believe I know what happiness is. Don't get me wrong, if he asked me I would probably not hesitate to say yes, but I want it to be natural, organic, real.

Growth is also responsible for my trip into the right direction. Surrounding myself with positivity and light, and letting nothing and no one stand in the way of my dreams. Realizing that working for others is not for me, but taking the initiative to take a serious leap on my own.

Keep your dreams up front to guide your vessel and happiness and bliss will just be around the corner........