When you are lost in love.......

What do you do to pull yourself out? In so deep that you can't climb or dig yourself up out of the grave of despair. You claim this is where you want to be, or at least you convince yourself that it is right. But you know deep down in your heart that it is toxic and now you are tainted, and somewhat undesirable. Undesirable to the next one....the one that may reciprocate the same wonderment about what love really is. The one that would get lost with you and won't want to escape. The rapture of the two of you experiencing this "surrender-free" kind of love. So how lost do you have to be in order to be able to release yourself from the bondage of heartache........Just wanted to know.