What about your friends.......?

Remember back in the day when you had that crew you use to hang so hard with.......go to the movies, walk the mall, hang in the bathroom, and have endless sleepovers. What happen to those days when having your girls around was a do or die situation, when it seemed like your whole life revolved around them? Now you're over 30 and have popped out two or three kids, and it seems like friends are far and few between. Adult relationships are not as genuine as when you were younger. Adult friendships are so one sided and are more based on status and what you can offer. No matter where you came from in your younger years, we just dressed her up in all our clothes so she wouldn't feel left out, and head out to the skating rink and have a good time! Yeah, there were some instances when there was the classic backstabbing in the circle, but these grown bitches are much more vicious! They are jealous, want what you got, and talk shit about you because you got it. Hell, they'll take your man!

I want to have those group of friends that I see on TV, like Joan on girlfriends or Samantha on Sex In The City. Why don't these sassy group of women exist in my world? I want to strap on my stilettos and grab a Cosmo or have brunch and a Mimosa with my besties. I need to have the group of women to rally together when my heart is broken and we gather around the kitchen table like Blanche and the Golden Girls to eat cheesecake at midnight. Where is my Rose?! Well, I've decided to hold auditions for three women to play the roll of my besties, my crew, my friend and a confident. You will have to be that do or die chick , crazy like Left Eye, sexy like Chilli, and cool like T-boz type of women. I will let you know the place and date of the audition later on.....get your shit together!

The Cookie Has Crumbled......The New Year Begins!

2009 brought a lot of happiness, heartache, and pain. But believe me the good has definitely out weighed the bad. God has taken things and loved ones away from me, but has blessed me with abundance beyond belief. I wish I could just sum it up in one solid lump, but too much too express. I wanted to have a pity party when things got rough, but he wouldn't allow me to do nothing but rejoice in his greatness and glory. Besides blessing me with two healthy, marvelous kids, he gave me someone so great that I can't believe what I have. A great man who tends to all my needs and desires before i even wish or imagine it. I love this with every part of my being that sometimes it hurts......now that's complicated. It's like having all your dreams come true and not knowing what to do with them........Rejoice and be glad in it ( that's what my Father keeps telling me. ).

So 2010 holds the question of," What do you do next?". I feel like I have everything that I ever wanted and more. God has blessed my family in ways beyond my dreams. Well, if I have my dreams and desires, I wish for you who reads this today to start by having your wishes come true. Your goals to be met, that man to enter your life, turn the key in your new house, crank up your dream car, land that perfect job. Its yours, its out there, go get it! I prayed it.......it will happen sooner than you think. Happy New Year!

Too Much Drama Momma!

I can honestly understand why an ex is called an ex. They come around to drop your kids off and you don't get that twinge of delight when you all were 1st together. You look down on him like he is the lowest form of " what ever " on earth! You try to look back on why in the hell you were with this loser in the 1st place. Then you look at the images of yourselves that you two created together, you then remember ( or try to remember ) what you had was once special. But that too subsides, because this idiot opens his mouth and nonsense dribbles out of it like droll on a bib! Telling you what he can't do, what he won't do, and what he think he needs to do. Just can't understand that both of you are supposed to be the parents, supposed to be the adults,.........but one of you are clearly doing his own thing!

Why are you responsible for reminding him about whats going on the kids lives, when he can just as easily show some initiative and call 1st. He doesn't know the teachers name, what their grades look like, or what time they even get out of school. Its so obvious that he is clueless about how great "your" kids are and how much they are growing up between the two weeks he doesn't call or come by. He just show up every 2ND and 4Th weekend out the month to "hang-out" with them. Feels that as long as he does that and give you that piece of a check once a month he is a good Dad. WRONG!!! You are just a part time father who shows up at a scheduled time and leave all the real parenting to be put solely on the real, hard working mothers. We can do it all, but the kids need more than one parent, especially when both are available. Mothers can't show boys to be men and mothers can't show girls the proper way men should treat women. It takes a father, a real father to help give life lessons that mothers can't do alone. But unfortunately we have done alone, our mothers have done it alone, .....shit, some of our grandmothers have done it alone! When in the hell are we going to be able to brake this repetitive cycle of sorriness, laziness, and and all around "LESS"! I don't understand how a man could be happy with his self being nothing, because I know personally my biggest accomplishment in life is giving life. You could never take that away, because it will always remain strong with me. So you men that are fathers who don't live with their kids, you need to man up and wake up......BECAUSE THIS MOMMA IS TIRED OF THE DAMN DRAMA!

The " U Suck! " Campaign

I have thought long and hard about this and thought it was time to start my official " U Suck!" Campaign. With all the constant calls and confiding from my friends and family bombarding me on a daily basis about the dumb-ass people in their life. These people that are around and only effect them in a negative and in appropriate way. We may have slept with this person, made some babies with them, and for some reason they are still the same idiots they have always been. This person can also be that annoying family member that quite frankly " Ain't worth a shit ", don't have a job, and always free loading from you. These people will be automatically entered into the " U Suck! " Campaign. I will be allowing people to enter names of any " sucky-ass " person who doesn't contribute any thing positive to society, sucks the air out of the room every time they enter, and brings nothing but destruction every time they come through. After you submit the name of your " sucky-ass " person I will put them into the "U Suck! " Campaign database, and send them an official letter from me. The letter will read as follows: Dear ( insert name here ),

You Suck!!!

Sincerely,
Sherrian Thecakediva Brown

Please do not hesitate to send me your " sucky-ass " person's address, email address, facebook, myspace, or twitter info to me @sherrianbrown@yahoo.com to get the official " U Suck " Campaign started off right!

Is Your Happiness Real?

The glitz, the glam, the money......But are they really happy? Celebrities have everything that money can buy and you wonder why they are alcoholics, addicted to drugs, and having nervous breakdowns. They have everything, but is it happiness? Is it the smile you put on your face when you enter work when you clearly hate you job. Is happiness the way you cuddle in bed with your significant other when you know you can't stand their ass! Or maybe happiness is a mystery that has not yet been discovered, floating around in the cosmos awaiting for some one to make it real.......genuine.

Someone on the outside may think your life is so perfect, that you got it going on, that you are " Happy ". It may be an appearance and your " happiness " is just not real. Sometimes I think this unsolved thing may not even exist. It may be just the thing that keeps us from being complete, whole. But we want it, because we work so hard to get it. Working a 40 hour shitty-ass job because it pays the most, to buy the things you always wanted, and not being able to enjoy it because your at work. So you continue to buy these " things " that you feel will make you happy.....but it doesn't work.


I look at the Travel Channel from time to time and its this show with these two guys who go to these remote villages to stay with these primative tribes. The people live off the land, hunt their food, and walk around among each other naked and free. No electricity, technology, or modern amenities. They just have each other and I think thet are genuinely happy. So maybe we need to give it all up; the nice house, the car, and the rest of the luxuries and go to find happiness. Because I think what we are doing right now is not working!

CHALLENGE!

I just want to challenge everyone today to be the best " you " that you can be. I say this as I am sitting in the jury selection room at the courthouse. We sit here looking at this video about the importance of serving on jury duty. Stating that it is a privilege, just not a right. How so many people, especially women and people of color were unable to even provide this service. So I challenge those in the " blog-o-sphere " to stand up for something to make a difference or an impact for you or someone around you. Even if it's as simple as saying, " Good morning " to the person you pass on the street. Volunteer at your kid's school, and come up with some ideas to make improvements instead of always complaining. Take the time to plan a healthy meal for your family, instead of grabbing something on the go. Set the table and ask your kids, " How was your day? ". You would be surprised to what they have learned and seen through the day.

If you haven't had the time to spend with your " Hunnie " lately, plan a romantic night. If money is an issue, plan something at home. Light some candles, uncork a $5 bottle of wine, and cook a sexy meal that will get that person in a sexy mood!

I challenge you today by calling someone that's important in your life to say, " I love you ". You would be thrilled to see what kind of impact you will have on some one's day. Love has a way of doing that to people!

I challenge you to enjoy life today. Regardless of what trials and tribulations you may be going through lately.......Just step back, take a breath and thank God for allowing you to live upon this earth another day. This is your day! I challenge you to claim it and make it great!

Baby Boys.......

Would it be too bold of me to tell these " Baby Boys " to get the tit out their mouth and grow the fuck up! Stop cryin' bout shit and askin for the pacifier and learn how to be men. We women learn this shit at an early age, but for some reason " Baby Boys " don't ever realize when they have children and get over the age of 21 its time to man up! I'm shouting out so loud today, b/c I am sick of friends and associates confiding, crying to me about these sorry " Baby Boys " who fell it's too much for them to particapate in the real world and take up the role of " The Grown-Up ".

The worst thing about the epidimic of the " Baby Boy " is that alot of these women are guilty of hendering their growth, b/c they occasionally sneak them the bottle. Missing their mommies, they don't want them to stray back home, the women in their lives will bribe them with gifts and money for fear of them leaving. " Baby Boy " doesn't even have a job and you want to reward this bum! You have about three of your own children to take care of, but do you realy need a fourth? This is the thing I don't get about the " Baby Boy " is that he feels comfortable taking from the single mothers and their baby mommas without any conscience. I just don't get it!

So my message to the " Baby Boys " out there hanging out in there momma's crib being the victim .......GET THE FUCK UP!!!!! TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF, YOUR KIDS, AND YOUR WOMAN! STOP TAKING ADVANTAGE OF THESE DESPERATE WOMEN WHO YOU KNOW HAVE LOW SELF ESTEEM AND AN UNHEALTHY FEAR OF BEING ALONE! STOP THINKING THAT YOUR GOOD LOOKS, SWEET TALK, AND BIG DICKS WILL GET YOU WHATEVER YOU WANT. YOU NEED A JOB, HARD WORK, AND A PERSONALITY TO GET THE THINGS THAT YOU WANT IN LIFE. THEN I WANT TO SHOUT OUT TO THE WOMEN ( MOTHER'S INCLUDED ) THAT PUT UP WITH THERE BULLSHIT.......STOP IT!!!!!!!